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Being thirty-something is...

It is a phase where I feel more stable. Yet, I continue to seek answers.
A quote by Bagus Muljadi, an academic and researcher, comes to my mind,


"It is not because your grades are good,
but because you relentlessly seek opportunities."


His words resonate deeply with me because, in my twenties, I used to believe that grades defined everything—determining where I would work and how I would be accepted by society. However, as time passed, I realized that grades are not the only thing that matters. It is not that grades are unimportant, but the ability to seek opportunities is far more crucial than simply having good grades.

Now, in my thirties, I possess a stronger sense of self-confidence. Experiences of failure and loss have given me a deeper understanding of how the world works. Yet, this does not mean I have everything figured out. Instead, I have become more comfortable with uncertainty, embracing it as part of life's journey.

On the other hand, I no longer chase everything. I choose what truly matters. I have learned that peace often comes from setting boundaries, not from saying yes to everything. I no longer speak just to be heard but to be understood. I listen more, observe more, and realize that wisdom is not about knowing everything. There is a difference between making noise and making an impact, right?




I now value my time and energy. It is not about doing more but doing what aligns with my values. In my twenties, I started thinking about tidying up my digital footprint. Now, in my thirties, I have become more selective with my words, understanding that meaningful conversations and thoughtful interactions carry more weight than simply having an opinion on everything.

Being in my thirties is about embracing where I am while still allowing space to grow—a lot of space to grow! I still dream, but I also appreciate the present. I acknowledge my achievements without comparing them to others. It is a balance between ambition and contentment, understanding that success looks different for everyone, and that is really okay for me.

Dear thirties, I will give myself permission to go after what I truly want because I am ready for whatever the future holds and for another journey into life's uncertainties. Beyond that, I sincerely hope that Allah will protect and guide me along the way.